Single Dilemma

After all these years I have still not figured out or understood the concept of being single. Since graduating I can't tell you how many conversations I have had about being in relationships and being single. I am still young but I can't help to think I want to get married and have kids; when is Mr. Right going to show up. Then I question maybe my standards are too high and maybe I need to readjust them. Is it too much to want someone taller than me, who is college educated and preferably dark skinned? Is that too picky? I think out of all my friends my criteria is the least detailed. Should women have to settle in order to finally get the relationship that so many of us want? Do we date the guy with a kid or the guy who is not sure what he wants to do in life? Do we date someone who we are not physically attracted to but he has a nice personality? I was talking to my mom and she said something that resonated with me; "looks are only an introduction but someone can become very ugly based on their disposition. Looks can attract you but they damn sure don’t keep you."
When do we as women finally get what we want? I'm 22 going on 23 but time is going by so fast, I feel like something has to give. I am not expecting to meet my husband but I do want to meet a man that I can finally have a relationship with that will allow me to really understand what I want in a man. I want a man of potential, a stepping stone to my future husband. I want to go on dates and avoid the late night texts (we all know what those mean). I want to be reminded that men are still capable of chivalrous acts. I would love to be in a serious relationship where I can give my all to someone else.

Then there are the people who are in serious relationships. Some of them are beautiful and show me that there is still such a thing as love. But then there are others who are so undeserving. Both men and women are cheating on their significant others and thinking nothing of it, the girl or guy that slept with all of their counterpart's friends is the one in a relationship. Now I know hating on others will do nothing for us single ladies and probably make it harder to find love but it still baffles me! It's sort of like a slap in the face when people are so nonchalant about commitment.Some people who have it don't appreciate it while those longing for it would cherish it.

Being single is not always bad and sometimes is needed. But if you are single for too long you start to wonder if you need to make a change. A guy I recently met asked me a very simple question that to me does not have a simple answer. Why am I single? If you are single and have a difficult time answering this question like I did, it may be time to think about why you are single, is it by choice or just circumstance? Is there someone in your life that is ready to be with you but you are fighting because he doesn't meet your qualifications or are you scared that he just may be to good to be true? This will probably be one of many blogs chronicling the single life talk with me and my friends wish us luck!